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03-27-2003 @ 2:48 AM
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Question:
Do you feel kids nowadays are over protected too much?

1. Yes
2. No
3. Not Sure


  
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03-28-2003 @ 3:27 AM
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Your question as it stands is a little hard to answer... it seems to imply that kids are over protected, so do we think that amount is too much?

I think you meant to ask:

Do you feel kids nowadays are protected too much?

or

Do you feel kids nowadays are over protected?

... coz saying that they are 'over protected' is really the same as saying they are 'protected too much', but over protected too much sounds kinda funny... like asking 'do you think they are over protected too little' already assuming that they are over protected... get what I'm saying? {:)

This message was edited by malk on 11-16-04 @ 6:47 AM

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08-17-2004 @ 1:28 PM
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Yes! Over protected to say the least!

Look at this subject from the point of view that we now take our kids to play dates in a Mini-Van with DVD players and video screens to play video games on them. There was a time when parents kicked you out on the streets to go play tag and to fend for yourselves. Today we are so concerned about our kids to the point it has been over done!

LET THE KIDS do fun things to a point! With some rules to follow (that is without going overboard) you can have some peace of mind. If this makes any sence!!!

Got to go for now but had to say a little something here...

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10-15-2004 @ 4:29 AM
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Yes, I think that the kids nowdays are overprotected
and spoiled.

Please, kids 7 years old walk with their own
cellphones at school.   Confused

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10-15-2004 @ 11:16 PM
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yes and no.

in the sense of physical saftey, yes, kids are likely over protected.  when we were young, bike helmets barely existed for motorcycles, let alone your kid on a trike.  the floors of the playground were comprised of dirt packed so hard you could crack your head on it and get hurt as bad or worse than cement.  

but who would we blame (or maybe thank?) for this?  parents?  no, i seriously doubt it.  most parents have the same view that kids are over protected in comparison to their own childhood.  i think you'd have to look at the lawyers.  if there weren't people suing the crap out of everyone and everything, these improvements would likely not exists.  i like some of the no brainer items, but for the most part, i think this litigation costs you and me thousands of dollars each year in inflated costs for products due to these law suits.

but i also think kids are NOT over protected in many ways.  this is where the parents are at fault.  i can't count how many times i pass little girls, no idea on age, but very young, and think to myself - "if i EVER caught one of my daughters in that outfit, she'd wear pants for a year straight to learn a lesson"  (i have two daughters).  likewise, parents allow their children to roam the streets after dark, fail in school, etc etc.  

it seems that parents new tool (rather than to practice what i define as "parenting") is to blame to system rather than hold their child accountable for their actions.  kid gets bad grades?  time to go to the school board and find out why your kids' teachers hate them like he says.  its rediculous.  never mind the fact that you never offered to help he/she with their homework, or took any active role in the educational process - its not your fault, and more to the point, surely its not YOUR childs fault.  does this drive you nuts too?!

so in that sense, kids are protected enough. they don't get the parenting that they need, thus leaving them un-protected for when the training wheels and helmet come off and venture to the path called "reality" when they grow up.

i for one am worried about the next generation.  we're raising (as a whole) a whiney group of brats that want it their way and that "its not their fault"

time to back off a little on the common sense protection, and juice up the real protection.  ironically this means not protecting them from reality anymore and letting them be resposible for thier decisions.

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10-29-2004 @ 11:05 AM
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Go Nate

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11-15-2004 @ 3:40 PM
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I think the outlooks are fairly wrong, kids are overprotected but the problem is that violent crimes towards children just keep rising, our parents all grew up in a generation where they could by and large trust most people and its degraded.

Whether we like it or not, civilization has quite quickly gone down the toilet, since the time of the babyboomers things were bound to change with a sexual revolution happening in the 50's.

It broke down so many social barriers that what would shock people back then now just are taken as common knowledge and with this has come forms of anarchy.

I do believe parents don't play their part properly though, take gun control for instance, how many shootings have we heard of from kids who walk into their parents arsenal and just take guns?

We blame all the wrong things for childrens behaviours too, oh its the rap music, oh its the violent games, oh its the films, its just not at all.

I think that parents need to shift their weight from blame to acceptance, pandoras box has been opened and age of innocence i dont think will truely exist in this world again (you could argue that age of innocence is more age of ignorance but whatever).

I think the honest truth is they are too overprotective whilst being far inactive with their childrens growth and some level of seperation occurs between the parents and the children.

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11-15-2004 @ 4:43 PM
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I agree with most of what you said - especially that civilization has gone down the toilet (at least we're headed in that general direction).  

However I have to disagree with in regards to gun crimes committed by kids.  I won't include specific links here since I don't want to try to vouch for any website's accuracy, but if you search for statistics on death rates from accidental shootings by kids, you'll find that there are actually very few.  Not to say it isn't a problem, but more kids drown in the bathtub every year than get shot accidentally.

The same goes for kidnappings.  Have kidnappings really increased per capita or is it the fact that there's a billion 24 hour news sources (web, tv, radio) and there's not enough real news to fill the day?  You end up hearing about every little thing from every little town that you never used to hear about.

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11-15-2004 @ 4:47 PM
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kidnappings have certainly increased in the 50's, its been a rising trend, though yeah it has plataued within the last decade or so but it has majorly risen.

and i wasn't talking about accidental shootings, i was talking more cold and calculated, but whether its just out of interest, accidental shooting or not, whether it doesn't go off and all is well, NO kid should have their hands on ANY real gun.

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11-29-2004 @ 5:33 AM
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The local news here in Michigan did a 3 part series on Children and the risks of them getting kidnapping.  What they did was contact I think it was 6 parents.  And did a deal with them where they would test there children against kidnappings.  Then the local police department sent out an "UnderCover" Cop and tested the kids.  When I watched it 5 out of 6 kids went to the cop, and probably would have been kidnapped if real live :S.  Sounds pretty sand but possibly true if you ask me!  I bet the parents would have never thought there kid would have been brought home to them :P!  I think pretty much overprotection is good in someways and not so good in others.

Local Bully: Dont over protect - Teach him/her to fight and woop that bully to shreds Smile

Kidnappings / other crimes against minors - Teach them to ScREaM and RuN like its track time and they want that gold (At least thats what peple taught us,  because if you scream people are bound to look at you and see whats going on Smile )

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